SELF-Parenting Student Issues
- Can’t tell Inner Parent from Inner Child
- Not sure if “doing it right”
- Confused about the difference between Inner and Outer Conflicts
- Inner Conflicts are ill-defined and tend to be “name calling” or “inner bashings” between the two selves
- May be unsure about the procedures or want to alter the SELF-Parenting session protocols.
- Excited with the newness and power of SELF-Parenting
- Susceptible to “The Purge”
- Overly concerned with fee issues
- Inner Parent tends to drift off during sessions
- Must learn not to roadblock the Inner Child during the Day
- Confuses rules with principles of SELF-Parenting
- Begins deeper investigations into the Inner Conversations
- Newness of SELF-Parenting has worn off
- Must make tricky transition from passive to active Inner Parent
- Needs to begin conscious reading and study to improve the parenting skills of the Inner Parent
- May have trouble maintaining sessions on a daily basis
- May struggle with “boring“ sessions
- May struggle with Inner Child “directing the Inner Parent”
- May leave safety of the group and subsequently stop SELF-Parenting sessions
- Must start assessing and improving role strictly as an Inner Parent
- Must concentrate not to be a “lazy” Inner Parent
- “Getting in touch” with Inner Child no longer enough to be happy. The Inner Parent must have its needs met as well.
- Discovers that outer parenting models have been dysfunctional, leaving no positive role models to emulate
- Needs to start understanding How Relationships Work from a SELF-Parenting point of view
- Uncovers self-confusing regarding the roles and responsibilities of Inner Parent and Inner Child
- Sessions are now a routine
- Has a strong internal sense of self-esteem
- No longer looks to group for guidance but enjoys social interaction and giving back to the group
- Has resolved many SELF-Parenting issues and enjoys an advanced SELF-Parenting Style
- Beginning to integrate positive SELF-Parenting skills and principles into the “real world”
- Begins and completes a lot of “clean-up” of outer relationships
- Is now practicing Win/Win principles with others “from the inside“
- May need to concentrate during sessions on specific Physical, Emotional, Mental issues such as:
- Food
- Smoking
- Weight
- Exercise
- Work/Job
- Leisure/Lifestyle
- Living environment
- Life Purpose
- Feels generally fulfilled and happy or else working through it during sessions
- Constantly integrating SELF-Parenting principles into daily life
- Possibly involved teaching others and beginning new SELF-Parenting support groups
- Zero problems with Inner Conflicts
- All “issues” revolve around outer relationships, culture, politics, etc.