SELF-Parenting Student Issues

Freshman Issues: First 90 Days

These are the category of issues that a Newbie to Beginner has
before and during the early stages of SELF-Parenting.

Can’t tell Inner Parent from Inner Child
Not sure if “doing it right”
Confused about the difference between Inner and Outer Conflicts
Inner Conflicts are ill-defined and tend to be “name calling” or “inner bashings” between the two selves
May be unsure about the procedures or want to alter the SELF-Parenting session protocols.
Excited with the newness and power of SELF-Parenting
Susceptible to “The Purge”
Overly concerned with fee issues
Inner Parent tends to drift off during sessions
Must learn not to roadblock the Inner Child during the Day
Confuses rules with principles of SELF-Parenting

Sophomore Issues: 3 Months to 2 Years

These are the issues that confront the New Intermediate S/P Practitioner
as s/he “Climbs the Mountain” to become more aware of their S/P Style

Begins deeper investigations into the Inner Conversations
Newness of SELF-Parenting has worn off
Must make tricky transition from passive to active Inner Parent
Needs to begin conscious reading and study to improve the parenting skills of the Inner Parent
May have trouble maintaining sessions on a daily basis
May struggle with “boring“ sessions
May struggle with Inner Child “directing the Inner Parent”
May leave safety of the group and subsequently stop SELF-Parenting sessions
Must start assessing and improving role strictly as an Inner Parent
Must concentrate not to be a “lazy” Inner Parent
“Getting in touch” with Inner Child no longer enough to be happy. The Inner Parent must have its needs met as well.
Discovers that outer parenting models have been dysfunctional, leaving no positive role models to emulate
Needs to start understanding How Relationships Work from a SELF-Parenting point of view
Uncovers self-confusing regarding the roles and responsibilities of Inner Parent and Inner Child

Junior Issues: 2 To 5 Years

These reflect the emotional and mental states of the Advanced S/P Practitioner
who is very experienced and comfortable with this practice for many reasons.

Sessions are now a routine
Has a strong internal sense of self-esteem
No longer looks to group for guidance but enjoys social interaction and giving back to the group
Has resolved many SELF-Parenting issues and enjoys an advanced SELF-Parenting Style
Beginning to integrate positive SELF-Parenting skills and principles into the “real world”
Begins and completes a lot of “clean-up” of outer relationships
Is now practicing Win/Win principles with others “from the inside“
May need to concentrate during sessions on specific Physical, Emotional, Mental issues such as:
- Food
- Smoking
- Weight
- Exercise
- Work/Job
- Leisure/Lifestyle
- Living environment
- Life Purpose

Senior Issues: 5 Years to Lifetime

Once SELF-Parenting is a lifetime habit, there’s a new sense of wonder and purpose as
one begins to “Trek the Foggy Plane.”

Feels generally fulfilled and happy or else working through it during sessions
Constantly integrating SELF-Parenting principles into daily life
Possibly involved teaching others and beginning new SELF-Parenting support groups
Zero problems with Inner Conflicts
All “issues” revolve around outer relationships, culture, politics, etc.