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The 23 Tips for Practicing the Self-Parenting Program: |
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Written by Dr. John K.
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Page 3 of 3 The first three months of Self-Parenting are just as important, maybe more so, for
the Inner Parent as for the Inner Child. This is not because of what the Inner Parent
does, but because of what it is NOT ALLOWED TO DO. The format of the sessions is
designed to “muzzle” the Inner Parent. You are training your Inner Parent to ask
a question and then listen to your Inner Child’s answer, perhaps for the first time
ever. We know your Inner Child will do fantastically well during your sessions if
you follow the session guidelines properly.
This does not mean your Inner Child will not experience some intense emotional and
cathartic feelings. Remember, if you have had a particularly difficult or abusive
childhood, the chances are you will have an abusive Inner Parent beneath your conscious
awareness. Your early sessions could be filled with some very strong emotional feedback
from your Inner Child. And what should you do if this happens? Simply say, “Thank
you Inner Child, for telling me that.” If the only thing you ever say to your Inner
Child besides asking the questions during your first three months of sessions is “Thank
you Inner Child, for telling me that”, then you are practicing the SELF-PARENTING
Program to perfection.
During the first six months of Self-Parenting there is a wide range of “normal”
progress. Some people immediately gain insights and understanding that others might
not get for several months, but within six months everyone begins to absorb a basic
understanding of the Self-Parenting process. In the main, the more personal growth
work an individual has done the more he or she will gain from the early Self-Parenting
sessions.
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